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18th February 2022, 12:03 PM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
Ivan, as said we are all thinking of you after your tragic loss of your soulmate. Stay strong for her memory and for your family.
Rgds
J.A.
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18th February 2022, 01:01 PM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
Anne and I are shocked and saddened at the news,
we met Wendy in Liverpool and was a loveley lady, saw her dancing with Ivan
Just so Sad
Our condolences
Brian and Anne,
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18th February 2022, 06:38 PM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
Ivan, Like the rest of your ship mates on site there is no words to express how you are feeling right now may your good lady Rest In Peace, stay strong and safe. Rgds Den
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18th February 2022, 07:06 PM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
I just want to thank everyone for their kind wishes and condolences, it does mean a lot to me and is appreciated. I am sorry I cannot reply to everyone individually, but I feel sure you will all understand. Thank you all once again, it is of great solace
Kind regards to you all, Ivan
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18th February 2022, 09:41 PM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
Dear Ivan
May your dear wife rest in peace.
I will remember both of you, and your family, in my prayers.
God Bless
Brenda
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24th February 2022, 05:45 AM
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As another who recently lost a partner, Ican assure you Ivan, that I Have had great peace and calm by tuning into this site regularly. We may never have met, but you are all terrific shipmates.
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24th February 2022, 11:31 AM
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Re: Another Shock (Ivan,s Wife)
In a happy marriage your best mate is your wife . And you do everything to try and protect her from outrageous things that might upset her . Maybe I took this too far in my own life, as after the Piper Alpha the only thing I would talk about to her was in the it was nothing attitude, and never discussed anything with her and tried to keep any of the horrific experiences from her. Over the years things have slipped out , and feel as I have cheated on her by not confiding in her in the first place, But by the same token I felt it easier to get out and speak amongst those who better knew what the scenery was like. However for a marriage to be true there must be no secrets , and I think Ivan this will have been the marriage you had. It must be very hard on you as. Would have been that bit closer ,and part of you has to die as well. The only partial cure is time and maybe in due course you may still have time to find another kindred spirit. Don’t give up your stronger than that. Keep up trying to be positive although it doesn’t seem correct . Regards JS
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24th February 2022, 12:16 PM
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So sorry to read about the loss of your beloved wife Ivan. I have some idea what you are going through as my partner died 6 months ago. Remember the good times and the laughs you has together.
May she rest in eternal peace. Thinking of you at this sad time Ivan.
Sincere regards
John C
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