Rodney, I was a widower with young twin teenage daughters, I did everything I could to alleviate the loss of their mother and I cannot fault them for keeping their promises to their mum before she passed away to study hard and they achieved Msc and Doctorate.........but........housework and tidiness, now that was something different. I refurbished their bedrooms, each had their own, to a very high standard, I may as well have just screwed cuphooks into the floor. One morning I went into their rooms collected all the clothes off the floor and put them in black bags and put them out for the binmen. Woke them up and told them they had 30 minutes before the binmen arrived (praying they wouldn't be early) they sure moved fast. Had clean rooms for a long time after that. Funningly enough when ever they stayed over somewhere at a friends, the parents would phone me next day, saying what a pleasure it was to have them, as they washed up,cleaned and hoovered their room before leaving etc. I often said 'are you sure you've got the right number' but it was nice to know that they never let us down.